June swoon. The kids are pouring out of the school doors now and it’s time for families to change routines. It’s always a jolt to juggle work and kids, isn’t it?
We have a great issue for you. Our resident dad (Happy Father’s Day, Steve!) fills us in on “Show Time, No Time.” Donne Davis our resident grandmother gives us older gals tips on learning to be a grandma. And our techie mom, Carolyn Jabs, gives us the low-down on tots and tech.
Cynthia Klein, a certified Parent Educator, gives us concrete examples of the art of listening. Sounds simple, but there are techniques that can enable you to really hear what your kids are saying. “Preschool Parent” Kristine Fox shares some mistakes she’s made and reminds us that our mistakes aren’t the end—they give us a chance to move forward. Fox says we should treat ourselves with the kindness with which we treat others. Our wonderful lactation consultant Sheila Janakos helps out a mom whose baby came early and is having trouble nursing.
What a line-up this month!
Never ever miss our book picks. The Reading Bug in San Carlos is not only a bookstore, it is a great place for community togetherness. They can even help out with gift buying and sending. Just call them or contact them online; they will help you choose a book, wrap it and send it for you. Easy-peasy.
I love our article this month on cell phone addiction. Soooommmme people I know could well take this to heart. Cell phones are great, but they ARE addicting. What do you do if your teen (or husband or wife) won’t take their eyes off the screen? Maybe you’re even reading this online right now. Is this about YOU?
Summer is all about exploring and creating great family times. Hope your summer is filled with some excitement, whether it’s a simple trip to the beach or exploring further away from home.
Until next time.
- Tory Hartman, Editor
The Doctor is in:
In two days, I received two emails and had one office visit that involved concerns about “sleep regression”. These mothers were asking if their child was experiencing the four-month-old, nine-month-old and 18-month-old sleep regression. They had all been on the Internet researching sleep issues and were sure they had found exactly what they were experiencing. Over the last couple of years I have had an increasing number of questions about sleep regression. When my children were young, I don’t recall ever hearing this term. I then did what every good pediatrician would do; I Googled it.
You and Your Money:
Money-savvy children learn to be both moneysmart and money-motivated. They become money-smart when they learn the difference between a balanced money economy and an unbalanced one. They become money-motivated when they are personally convinced of their ability to become relatively wealthy if they make the right saving choices, or money-poor if they make the wrong choices.
Growing Up Online:
For many years, the American Academy of Pediatrics had strict rules about screen time—no exposure for kids under two and no more than two hours a day for preschoolers. Last December, the Academy abandoned those guidelines, acknowledging what parents already knew: Screens are everywhere.
The endless U.S. presidential election season can be a teaching opportunity for future voters and candidates. I’d like to share a few of my favorite children’s books on the topic—President Squid, Monster Needs Your Vote, Fake Mustache and The Election Activity Book.
Being bullied can hurt young children in many ways, but a new University of Texas at Dallas study found that it does not lead to later substance abuse.
The research by three criminologists in UT Dallas’ School of Economic, Political and Policy Sciences, discovered that students who were bullied in third grade did not have a greater risk of using drugs or alcohol by ninth grade.
A new report issued by Common Sense Media finds that 50 percent of teens “feel addicted” to mobile devices and 59 percent of their parents agree that their kids are addicted. Additionally, parents and children are concerned about the effects mobile device use has on their daily lives—from driving to the dinner table—with over one-third of the families in the Common Sense poll arguing about it daily.
Middle School Mom:
Children’s emotions can often surge and become difficult for them to understand and for us to handle. Loving, lasting and meaningful relationships are built during these emotional moments. When we connect with our children during stressful, “out-of-control” or even reflective times, we teach them that we value them and their emotions. We demonstrate that we are able to understand and manage our own emotions and that, with time, they can manage theirs as well.
I’ve made all kinds of mistakes in my life, but none feel as soul-crushing as the mistakes I make as a parent. For me, the most frustrating of those mistakes is when I lose my patience and yell at my kids.
It happens to all of us. Whether our patience has slowly eroded throughout the day or spiked in an unforeseen calamitous earthquake of emotion, once it happens, our kids look at us a little differently after that moment. This isn’t the end of your potential run as Good Parent of the Year or even Okayest Parent of the Year.