Posted by MissyHall | Posted in Adopting Mommy | Posted on 12-09-2012
Tags: Missy hall adoption
It’s all about him…
Because….we are “having” a BOY!! And by having, i mean that we are whole heartedly welcoming a snuggly little guy old into our hearts and home as his foster parents, and maybe we will become his forever family. We are committed to his best –which at this point is a concurrent home (foster placement) and this means a totally new reality for us. A year ago, I would have said that having a child placed with us with the possibility of being removed after a year would be the “worst case scenario”. In our case, there are upcoming court dates and the a very real possibility of reunification, which might be the best case for him. I am not sure when in this looooooong process that my heart was softened, but now, I am confident that this is the child for us, for this time–even with no guarantees of the conclusion to his tale.
Let me back up…
Our call a couple weeks ago, turned into another call, and a meeting, and a whole lot of information gathering…
Then, turned into a 13 day “adoption labor”…as in REALLY difficult to wait. Just as I yelled things like: “get this baby out of me!” when I was laboring with my birth children, this time I was ranting: “get this baby over here!” This is truly due it own post, most likely entitled: “Seven days of Hell” or “The Big I”, or “Having a Mini Panic Attack Every Hour because I Have NO Control Over How Our Lives are maybe are About to Change.” But, hey, it’s not about me, right?
So, next week we get to meet him. We were hoping/ thinking/planning for it to be sooner, but then (shocker!) things change. After we meet him, we will work out a two week process of transitioning him into our home. Then begins our new reality as foster parents!! As you can imagine, we have been busy re-arranging the kids’ rooms, preparing, asking all our loved ones for hand-me-downs and carpool help. It’s truly exciting to know that he is just around the corner…even if our “plan” now looks a little different than we had originally imagined.
So, in light of our new family situation, I am going to take a break from blogging, and really hunker down to get to know Little Man. As I already said, “it’s not about you”…but, I am breaking up with you (for a time!) We have been asked to keep the details of his family private and I just don’t know how to not gush and gush and gush about him. But, I do want to thank you for your online “listening” ear and encouragement over this past year.
So, what next? Well, I’ll leave you with what seems to be my mantra lately:
One Day at a Time