Posted by Len Ramirez, Total Teen Dad | Posted in Total Teen Dad | Posted on 10-06-2011
Today, my youngest daughter Megan graduates her junior year and becomes a senior in high school. All ofyou may already know Megan. She’s the columnist that writes Life As A Teen for Parenting on the Peninsula. For all of you that don’t know Megan, she’s a blessing. I don’t know how else to explain it. I started thinking yesterday about her and wondered about all the people and things that events and places that have shaped her.
There are so many things that shape us, aren’t there? We have friends of all kinds. People. Animals. They come and go in life. How we deal with them makes us who we are.
We take interests in different things. We try things and sometimes we like them and we do them for a long time. Sometimes we don’t and we quit them and move on. Megan tries anything that comes her way. At least once. She loves to live and experience life. She always has. She was climbing those metal jungle gyms at the playgrounds when she was 2. And I let her. She fell through a couple of times. And then one time she caught hold of the bars and saved herself. This last Memorial Day we went ziplining 300 feet over the floor of the redwoods in Occidental and she loved every minute of it.
I’ve done a lot of things with Megan. We’ve travelled a lot of places. And we have experienced a lot of things together. She carries on when she’s without me with her friends. I know she will grow up and do those things with her family that she did when she was younger. She’ll go camping. She’ll make waffles, pancakes, and linguicia on Sunday mornings. She’ll laugh. A LOT. And she’ll do things with her children that I’ve done with her.
Time moves by so quickly. The good thing is we will forget the uncleaned bedrooms. We will miss the toys left out on the floor. We will only care that they remember the good times we all shared together. The pants they tore, the shoes they wrote on with permanent markers. None of it matters.
As much as I have taught my children, they continue to teach me. The good thing is I remember what it was like to be their age. I still try to guide them, but I try really hard to keep letting the rope out and to let them challenge themselves.
My kids don’t always make the good decisions. But, neither did I. And I still make mistakes. We’re all human. And the older we get, the more imperfections they see in us. That’s okay. I think I’m still perfect. Just the way I am.
And they’re perfect just the way they are. Megan knows this. Around 3pm today, she will officially become a senior. Congratulations Megan!Patience. Acceptance. Logical. Emotional. She is all these things and more. And I wouldn’t change any of it.